Is Lag BaOmer Out of Control?

As every kid knows, Lag B'Omer is a celebration on the 33rd day of the counting of the Omer. This marks the last day of the plague which wiped out 22,000 pupils of Rabbi Akiva.

Lag B'Omer is also the anniversary of the death of R.Shimon Bar Yochai, the author of the Zohar and 'father' of Jewish Mysticism. Rabbi Shimon was the leading (surviving) student of Rabbi Akiva, and was an oft-quoted Tannaic leader, being the fourth most quoted voice in the Mishna.

Here in Israel, Lag B'Omer is most popularly celebrated by the lighting of bonfires as well as joining the throngs making the pilgrimage to Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai's tomb in Meron in the Galilee. In recent times, the bonfire lighting tradition has also spread to the Diaspora.

At this point, all seems well and healthy about Lag B'Omer – good clean fun.

You can call me a kill-joy, but unfortunately there is a dark and less happy side to the Lag B'Omer festivities...

In my opinion, these come in four categories:

  1. The danger of children being abused
  2. The danger of severe burns & other injuries
  3. Kids 'borrowing' carts from supermarkets
  4. And the wholesale stealing of anything made of wood.

Taking these one-by-one:

Risk of Child Abuse: On a recent visit to the Child Protection Center ("Mercaz Hagana") in Jerusalem, they told me that the night of Lag B'Omer is their annual nightmare.

Consider (for a moment) that you are a child abuser.

Now picture a night where thousands of kids go out, with close-to-zero parental/adult supervision, all night, scattered throughout the neighborhood, sleeping in the open – unfortunately, Lag BaOmer is a pedophile's dream come true.

Incidents of rape and molestation of children peak on Lag B'Omer.

What Can You Do About It:

Speak with your children before Lag B'Omer.

Along with a physical safety message (see Dr Halberstad's letter below), also open an (age appropriate) discussion about their sexual safety.

Please note that there have been a spate of attacks by strangers on children in our neighborhood. B'H, some of those attackers have been arrested – but others are out there.

IMHO, there is no purpose in young children returning home at dawn.

So have a to-be-home-time, with a stated and agreed consequence to your kids returning home any later than that hour. If their friends ask why they're going home (“it’s only midnight!”), tell your kids they are welcome to blame you, their parents. "My parents said I must be home by such and such a time, or I'll get into big trouble".

Explain why they should always stay with their chosen group (friends, youth-club, school, shul, family, whatever) and only move between groups accompanied by at least one friend. They must never be on their own on the night of Lag B'Omer (accept when walking from A-to-B on a well lit and busy street).    

If an older person (more than two years their senior) who is not a part of their group, approaches them and asks them to help them, such as to move wood, to find something in the bushes, to show them to a place they "can't find", and even if they offer your child a reward (sweets or money) or they tell your child it is a great mitzvah to help them, teach your children how to politely say "I can't help you. I am with Such & Such a group tonight."   

(Roll play this with your kids – and create other scenarios).

Even though 'stranger danger' is a serious concern, there's a actually a much larger risk of your child being abused by someone he (and probably you) trusts. (Only one-in-ten acts of child abuse are perpetrated by strangers).

Here’s some good practical advice by Rabbi Yakov Horowitz:

There are four basic messages that children need to internalize in order for any abuse prevention program to be truly effective:

1. Your body belongs to you

2. No one has the right to make you feel uncomfortable

3. No secrets from parents

4. Good touching/bad touching

Please educate yourself before speaking to your children so that your discussions generate light and not heat. Additionally, it is important for you to know – and to share with your children – that although “stranger danger” is a genuine concern, the vast majority of molesters are family members or people well-known to the children.

As Teaneck Police Chief Michael Bruno brilliantly said during a talk he gave on child safety, “We need to train our children to consider the “it” (the inappropriate action being done to them) not the “whom” (regardless of the relationship or stature of the individual who is doing it).

There are free resources available on our website, the Los Angeles-based Aleinu Safety Kid Program: , and you can get a free DVD with abuse prevention information by contacting Ohel at Here are links to two videos Project YES released to educate you, and help you have these discussions with your children:

Video: Speaking to your Kids about Personal Safety:

Burns & Other Injuries: This is a posting written by Dr Moshe Halberstad of Terem Medical Emergency Center, and a resident of Ramat Bet Shemesh:

As Lag B'Omer approaches, it is worth noting that last year at Terem Urgent Care I saw a striking number of injuries associated with Lag B'Omer that were directly related to a lack of parental supervision.
Here is a partial list of some of the unfortunate injuries/illness commonly seen in association with this holiday.

1) Eye injuries/facial burns- involving severe burns to the cornea and face, resulting from bursts of sparks that commonly occur when unsupervised children attempt to add wood at close range to unstable,
poorly built fires. Almost all children were at the time being "supervised" by siblings. In addition to causing excruciating pain, such injuries can result in impaired vision and disfigurement.
In a six-hour period last year on Lag B'Omer, I referred more patients for emergency Opthalmologic and/or Plastic Surgery consultation due facial/opthalmic burns than in the two years I spent working in the Bronx.

2) Lacerations/ splinters/ puncture wounds- Severe cuts resulting from children attempting to gather/split/ assemble wood for bonfires, often from jagged wood pieces containing nails, staples, etc. Also seen were a number of severe lacerations related to climbing over fences and sharp objects into construction sites to collect wood or build a fire

3) Breathing issues- children with asthma or other chronic respiratory issues are particularly at risk on the night of Lag B' Omer, as anyone who walks outside and smells the air can imagine.

This year, it is therefore strongly recommended that all children who attend/build bonfires do so with parental supervision. Younger children in particular should not be permitted to be in close proximity and certainly not be allowed to approach and help "manage" the fire. Collection of wood and bonfire construction should also not
be done haphazardly (not to mention illegally). Last year I met many distraught parents who did not supervise their children and "never thought it could happen to their child." It is my hope that this year many of these injuries can be prevented.

Wishing all of you a happy and safe holiday.
Moshe Halberstadt, MD

While on the issue of physical safety, I would like to give kudos to the excellent annual Keren Yosef + Ezrat Achim fire safety campaign leading up to Lag BaOmer. 

Borrowing Shopping Carts: 

Let’s call a spade a spade.

It has become socially acceptable for kids to steal shopping carts for Lag BaOmer.

(The excuse that they ‘borrow’ them, only works if they obtain permission from the store owner, and then the kids return the shopping cart afterwards – neither of which happen)  

I frankly find this astounding.

We spend so much time and resource teaching our kids the very highest standards of behaviour, before Man and G-d.

And then, whoosh! It’s a free for all, everyone's stealing other people’s property. 

Shoplifting. Looting. Call it what it is.

In the name of Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai and Rabbi Akiva??!!

I simply don't understand why our frum society smilingly tolerates this...?
(Picture for illustrative purposes only)

Stealing Wood: Ditto for the wholesale quantities of wood, which is often stolen from building sites, from people’s private yards, and from other kids.

Another issue, by the way, is the environmental damage caused by thousands of bonfires throughout the country, not to mention real danger for asthma sufferers.

In short – Lag BaOmer has become “hefker” night – a reckless abandonment on an enormous sale.

I propose that the time has come to rein in some of this excess.

  1. There should be a central source of wood for burning (Iriya + KKL).
  2. Designated (safe) places for bonfires (Iriya plus Fire Dept)
  3. Curfew time (parent groups patrolling and police)
  4. Encouragement of relatively few group bonfires, rather than vast numbers of small private initiatives. (system of permits?)
Hopefully, such minimal controls would result in a safer and more ethical/educational Lag BaOmers for all!

Who wants to help get this in place before NEXT Lag BaOmer??


  1. I hope someone hears this, but there's a lot of inertia. Also a lot of Anglo parents who allow their children to participate (against their better judgement), in order not to deprive them of this 'essential Israeli experience'.
    The Israeli reaction on the other hand is usually "We did it as kids", and "Yihiye B'Seder".

  2. I'm with you on all counts. Thank you for raising this publicly, because I've been ranting about it privately for 10 years, particularly the aspect of stealing shopping carts and wood. Last year a mob of kids raided the shul next door me and proceeded to start smashing some old pews that were not in use for Lag BaOmer bonfires, until we neighbors put a stop to it. This is nothing less than a disease, and they should be educating kids about geneiva in schools for the entire month leading up to Lag BaOmer.

  3. Yes. There are only a few days (Purim, 33-Omer, etc) Charedi youth are allowed to be "out of control", so they take as much advantage as they can. The rest of the year they are in complete control almost to the exclusion of most forms of fun.

  4. Mark - that comment is totally out of place. There is no difference between Charedi, Dati-Leumi or secular youth in this respect. They all descend to the lowest common denominator, unfortunately.

  5. David, thank you for posting a very important message. It should be posted to the community lists well.

    However, I think that your suggestions in the first part are not enough, particularly in light of the second part of your post. Even children who are old enough to walk around the neighborhood unsupervised, should not be allowed to do so at all hours nor on a night were particularly dangerous and/or unethical activity is the norm e.g. purim and lag baomer (fires, wood collecting, theft, damage of public and private property, excessive polution)

    It may not be realistic to completely deny children the entire experience, but perhaps a family outing to an organized lighting would be a reasonable compromise.

    So far, I have been able to keep my children for participating in any wood collecting and fire lighting, and they suffice in a quick stop at a couple of early fires and then off to bed.

  6. This is a very important article.

    What is required is Community Leadership on this topic.

    First and foremost from our rabbonim shlita.

    Anyone reading this post should send a link to their rav.

    This coming shabbos, Rabbanim in every shul in the neighborhood should explain to their kehilos the nature of the problems of Lag BaOmer, safety and ethics, and encourge practical measures to be implemented before this Lag BaOmer.

    Yeshar koach David for speaking out!

  7. Maybe the bonfire ritual should be moved to the anniversary of the death of Moses De Leon as he is the one that actually wrote the Zohar, not Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai.

  8. May Hashem bless you for this great (and timely, of course) post.

    A related post went up last year at the Treasures of Ashkenaz site, explaining the way our ancestors marked Lag Baomer and how what goes on in some places today is a terrible deviation from our holy mesorah. It can be seen at

    It is time to extinguish the אש זרה that the day has become today for many, due to it being dangerous בגשמיות וברוחניות.

    Thank you and חזק ואמץ!

  9. This is very important, and there is plenty to work on re safety for Lag Ba'Omer. More cities need to adopt policies like the Tel Aviv-Yafo municipality, giving out wood and safety regulations - see here for more info:

  10. I would love to see the iriyah drive around in trucks the day before Lag B'omer, collecting up all the piles of wood that are waiting to go up in flames. The wood should all go to a central place to make a huge communal bonfire, which will be enjoyed by the whole community (all colours of kippot included). It would be properly supervised to prevent burns. There really is no need for every group of little boys in the neighbourhood to each have their own individual fire.


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